A young mom has divided opinions online after admitting that she’s unsure how to handle raising her newborn baby once her maternity leave runs out.
The aspiring momfluencer, who goes by ‘Simply Fainna’ online, took to TikTok over the weekend to ask for parenting advice on how to manage her career and motherhood.
‘So I go back to work in six weeks after my maternity leave, and you’re telling me that six weeks from now I’m going to have to figure out how to get two of my kids ready, me and my husband ready, go to work, work the entire day, come home, take care of said two kids…’ she fanted.
Fainna continued, ‘Have dinner on the table, make sure they’re fed, do the whole bedtime routine, somehow managed to have some time with my husband, do some kind of self care…
‘If I’m still alive, go to the gym, work out or something, and go to sleep at a reasonable hour and then wake up and do this all over again?’
She added, ‘Don’t get me wrong, I’m extremely lucky because I have an amazing husband who does almost everything but. How do you guys do it?’
Her cries for help divided opinion, with some having empathy for her plight as a new parent, while others said that she needed to ‘grow up’ and face reality.
‘She has to be joking!! If not try being a single parent!’ snapped one.
A young mom has divided opinions online after admitting that she’s unsure how to handle raising her newborn baby once her maternity leave runs out
‘The lack of empathy for her in the replies shows exactly why younger women are not having children. Enjoy the plummeting birth rates, you mean a**holes,’ another commented.
Another wrote, ‘This is why my wife doesn’t work, her job on our team is to be the house manager and nurturing mother, my job is to be the provider and protector. It has worked this way for the vast majority of human existence.’
A fourth added, ‘Figure it out because millions of us have done it for years and many are still doing it! It’s called adulting, parenting and yup being tired all the time!’
‘I can’t really blame her,’ argued another. ‘The new generation gets the fact that women have been sold the big fat lie that women can do it all. We can’t. Working outside the home sucks when you have kids.’
Some parents offered more practical advice for Fainna to follow.
‘Welcome to parenthood. Yes, women have done this for decades. How? Meal Planning weekend meal prep (or partial prep),’ wrote one.
‘Prep and freeze so things are ready to pop in the oven. Slow-cookers. Once you learn, it’s easy. Oh, and get up an hour earlier for that ‘self-care’ workout,’ they added.
One mother of five dished out some tough advice to Fainna, telling her to ‘stay off TikTok’ and ‘stop making whiny videos’.
The aspiring momfluencer, who goes by ‘Simply Fainna’ online, took to TikTok over the weekend to ask for parenting advice on how to manage her career and motherhood
Her cries for help divided opinion, with some having empathy for her plight as a new parent, while others said that she needed to ‘grow up’ and face reality
According to a recent poll, working mothers really are doing it all – preparing 780 meals, doing 728 loads of washing and ironing, ferrying kids around 520 times and overseeing 468 lots of homework in an average year.
Despite this, an overwhelming eight in ten (82 per cent) agreed that they would not swap being a parent for the world.
Australian radio star Emma Chow recently broke down over the struggles of being a working millennial mom.
Chow shares two children – Valentino, seven, and Raphael, eight months – with husband Enzo Lisbona.
‘It’s such a hard feeling to grapple with, to go: “I have everything that I want, but why do I feel like I’m struggling with all of it?”‘ she said on her 2DayFM radio show.
‘And there is a thing called millennial mum midlife crisis. So, it’s this entire generation of women juggling full-time work, full-time parenting, rising childcare costs, ageing parents, and no time to breathe, just for a second.’
Emma added that it was a topic that frequently popped up among her friends.
‘This is a conversation I have with my girlfriends all the time, and normally ends in tears, because we’re trying so damn hard at everything,’ an emotional Emma admitted.
‘But it feels like we’re not really nailing any of it, because we’re trying so hard.’
