They’re a rare A-list couple whose relationship has stood the test of time – and Sting and Trudie Styler’s secrets to a longstanding romance are far from conventional.
Throughout their 33 years of marriage The Police frontman (real name Gordon Matthew Thomas Sumner), 74, and his actress wife, 72, have shared insights into their weird and wonderful life together, from advocating for tantric sex and the power of meditation to adopting a diet based on teachings from Zen Buddhism.
Despite their spiritual tendencies, Sting and Trudie are no strangers to indulging in the finer things, with the singer recently making headlines for purchasing an £80,000 bath for his palatial home in Italy.
The tub, crafted from marble and featuring intricate mosaics, proudly sits at his Sorrento property overlooking the Bay of Naples – and is a likely feature during his FaceTime calls, given that he likes to ring his famous friends, including Sam Smith, from the bathroom.
Spending time in the tub is probably the ideal method for the couple to relax after a yoga session, a practice that both Sting and Trudie regularly preach the benefits of.
‘I have always believed since a young child that moving the body stilled my mind,’ Trudie said on Instagram, continuing, ‘As someone who has ADHD, I’ve always noticed that I feel better after getting on the mat than before it.’
Sting, meanwhile, admitted in an interview with his yoga instructor that he had started yoga later in life, aged 38-39.
Sting and his wife Trudie Styler, who share four children together, enjoy a weird and wonderful life together
The singer, who shares four children with his wife Trudie – Mickey, Jake, Eliot and Giacomo – told the White’s White Lotus Retreat: ‘I have been through various fitness regimes before, you know. I used to run about five miles a day, and I did aerobics for a while.
‘I always stayed fit because I’m a performer, and all of those things help me to perform.
‘But it wasn’t until I met Danny Paradise, who became my mentor in Yoga, that I started the practice which I feel I will stay with for the rest of my life,’ he added.
When he hit 60, he told Energy Times: ‘I perform on stage in much the same way I did when I was in my 20s or teens, and I’m doing it just as efficiently.
‘Two decades of yoga has given me two extra decades of this career. I wouldn’t be able to do it if I was out of shape,’ he added.
The singer is so dedicated to the practice that he is known to do his yoga even when away on tour.
In 2021, while on Lorraine Kelly’s ITV show, he joked his good looks were due to ‘vanity and a little bit of discipline,’ before adding, ‘I studied yoga for 30 years. But everything becomes yoga after a while.’
In addition to yoga, the singer also revealed that he ‘swims every day… I like to walk, and I sing.’
Trudie took to Instagram to explain how yoga helps calm her ADHD, saying: ‘I feel better after getting on the mat than before it’
The singer (pictured in 2003) and his actress wife have publicly preached about the benefits of yoga – he is even known to practise it while on tour
In 2021, he shared the secret to his washboard midriff in a TikTok video where he demonstrated his ‘perpetual crunch’.
The Message In A Bottle hitmaker lay on his back, tensing and stating, ‘Getting my tummy nice and hard’ as he showed off his incredible fitness.
He urged his fans to take up the Sting perpetual crunch challenge, writing: ‘You can do it.’
Yoga isn’t the only form of exercise that the couple get – and both have advocated for tantric sex, with Sting having once made a throwaway comment about having seven-hour-long steamy sessions with his partner in the 1990s.
In the 2003 Guardian interview, the singer scoffed when he was asked whether he had any advice for people considering trying tantric sex themselves, telling his interviewer the practice is about ‘the journey’; adding ‘it’s not f******* for eight hours.’
However, Sting did give more detail about his tantric connection with his wife, with whom he calls his ‘church,’ and added that sex was only the surface of a deep, meaningful relationship.
He added the practice of tantra was about how you connect with your partner, which can happen at different times throughout the day, from the way you look at them to running them a bath or giving them a massage.
In 2014, he further clarified his comments during an interview for the Bravo series Inside the Actor’s Studio.
Pictured: Il Palagio, Sting and Trudie’s 16th-century 900-acre estate in Tuscany, which boasts a lake, several guest houses, a swimming pool and a chapel which has been converted into a meditation space
Sting gave fans an insight into his daily routing in 2021, and showed off the secret to his flat stomach with his exercise called a ‘perpetual crunch’ on TikTok
‘The idea of tantric sex is a spiritual act. I don’t know any purer and better way of expressing a love for another individual than sharing that wonderful, I call it, ‘sacrament.’ I would stand by it. Not seven hours, but the idea.’
He then quipped, ‘Seven hours includes movie and dinner,’ generating laughs from the audience.
Exercise and play aside, Sting follows a macrobiotic diet, a holistic, plant-based approach focusing on whole grains, locally grown vegetables, and sea vegetables.
He’s credited his shape to his diet, which aims to avoid toxins and processed food that contains preservatives. The diet also centres around low consumption of meat, dairy and sugar.
Sting and his wife Trudie moved their family to the £7 million Lake House Farm in Wiltshire in 1991 and adopted a self-sufficient diet, growing organic vegetables ever since.
The singer’s family own a flock of free-range chickens, as well as their own trout lake and even bee hives for honey.
In her 1999 book, The Lake House Cookbook, Styler wrote: ‘I decided that I would only be satisfied if I knew exactly what we were putting on our plates.’
She also revealed that the couple enjoys a conscious approach to eating, and believes that the way ‘We treat our own bodies is by extension the way we treat the planet.’
So devoted is the singer to his diet that he reportedly keeps his own personal chef on tour with him to keep it up while he is away from home.
Over at their Tuscan property, the couple follows a similar ethos – and make wine, thanks to their sprawling vineyard – but with their typically unconventional twist, the organic bottles are named after Sting’s songs, including Message in a Bottle.
