A woman revealed that her step-sister hasn’t invited her to her wedding because she is ‘overweight.’
Taking to British parenting platform Mumsnet, the woman explained that the wedding was going to be ‘very Instagramable’, admitting that she doesn’t ‘fit in’ with the aesthetic.
She revealed she had ‘assumed’ she would be invited to the destination wedding and ‘had money put aside’ and was ‘looking forward to a few days away’.
The mother-of-two asked whether she was ‘unreasonable’ for feeling ‘sad and angry’ at not being invited to her sibling’s wedding.
Many rushed to the comments with their own thoughts, with some saying her step sibling sounds ‘shallow’, but others suggested maybe the bride-to-be just doesn’t like her.
A woman revealed on Mumsnet that her step-sister hasn’t invited her to her wedding because she is ‘overweight’ (stock image)
The post read: ‘Upset we weren’t invited to the wedding. My step sister is getting married in August, the invites went out a few weeks ago and it’s become clear me and husband aren’t invited. I asked my mum about this and she confirmed it, said she had asked my step dad about it and he just said he didn’t want to get involved.
‘Mum and him got together when the kids were older teens/young adults so step siblings have never lived together but we’ve always got on. We all live in different cities and even countries but we have get togethers at Christmas etc
She continued: ‘The wedding is abroad and child free (we have a few kids) but one of the other step siblings got married last year and it was child free and we went and had a lovely time, we had zero problem with this.
‘It’s become clear also that it is going to be a very ‘instagramable’ wedding and we just don’t fit in, all their friends are glamorous and we are homely and overweight.
‘They have invited family of parents, step parents, full siblings and their partners and about 40 friends according to my mum but we haven’t made the cut.
‘I know the usual mn [Mumsnet] attitude is people can invite who they want to their wedding but am I being unreasonable to feel sad and angry at not being invited?’
People suggested the snub was ‘nasty’ and reassured the woman that she has a right to be upset.
Taking to the British parenting platform, the woman explained that the wedding was going to be ‘very Instagramable’, admitting that she doesn’t ‘fit in’ with the aesthetic
One person wrote: ‘Wow! This is pretty low. I think if there’s a nasty streak in someone, weddings just seem to draw it out. I would be sad too.’
Another said: ‘It sounds like it’s more style over substance and they can’t see what is most important – friends and family, rather than photogenic acquaintances.
‘If you have some money put aside then book something nice for your own family. I might send a card, as I am like that, but I wouldn’t be getting them a present.’
Someone else wrote: ‘No you are not wrong to feel the way you do. They don’t want you there which is hurtful. Don’t send a present or card. Or ask about it at all.’
A fourth said: ‘Yes that sucks. Polite and distant from now on. Nought you can do about it but feeling hurt is natural.’
The poster later added: ‘Thanks everyone for letting me know I’m not unreasonable. Embarrassingly I had assumed I’d be invited and had money put aside and was looking forward to a few days away as it’s in a country I love. Childcare wouldn’t have been a problem. I shall try to book something else to do with the kids.’
Meanwhile others suggested that she shouldn’t take it to heart and jump to conclusions.
People suggested the snub was ‘nasty’ and reassured the woman that she has a right to be upset
Meanwhile others suggested that she shouldn’t take it to heart and jump to conclusions
She revealed she had ‘assumed’ she would be invited and ‘had money put aside’ and was ‘looking forward to a few days away’
One person said: ‘I think you’re a little harsh to jump to the conclusion you aren’t “instagram-friendly” enough. It’s a child-free wedding abroad and you have children; they may have just thought it’s all too much hassle.
‘It’s also very common for people to prioritise their friends. That doesn’t mean they don’t like you.
‘You were married and gone before your respective parents got together. You are step-siblings in name only, rather than having a shared family bond.’
Another said: ‘Have they told you your style didn’t fit with their wedding/wedding photos? If not, it is a huge assumption to think you were not invited because of being overweight or not fashionable.
‘My bet is that you were not invited because you are not close to them directly. You may have been at the same parties when your stepdad is present but if you don’t see them at all when he is not, you are just acquaintances and not close enough for the smaller numbers that destination weddings are about.’
Someone else said: ‘I wouldn’t be too hurt by this since it’s a small wedding. Plus, you don’t know if she limited family her side to exclude step-relatives to avoid inviting someone on his side. Also not everyone views step-relatives as on the same “family” level as blood relatives.’
