I’m an exhausted new mum and the woman next door is keeping my baby up all night with her loud sex. Is it s**t-shaming if I tell her to keep it down?
- Mum said she can’t sleep
- Asked if she should tell neighbour to be quiet
A sleep deprived new mother has revealed how she’s kept up all night by her sex worker neighbour and her clients – and asked how she should ask he to stop.
The anonymous mum, said that her neighbour has several men visit throughout the day and she can often hear loud ‘spanking’ into the night.
She said that she has nothing against sex work, and that she’s apprehensive about speaking to her neighbour because the noise is due to her livelihood, but that she and her husband are ‘desperate for sleep’.
The mum wrote into the Life Uncut podcast, where Brittany Hockley and Laura Byrne read out her letter.
‘Our neighbour is a sex worker. And we have a four month old newborn, we’re sleep deprived, exhausted, overwhelmed by all the things,’ Laura said.
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The anonymous mum, said that her neighbour has several men visit throughout the day and she can often hear loud ‘spanking’ into the night
‘We are on a first name basis, but we don’t know her that well.
‘She hasn’t explicitly told us that she’s a sex worker, just that there has been a ramp up in the number of people coming over to her place, and there are sex noises at all hours of the day.
‘So we went looking on Instagram and found her professional page. We aren’t prudes and don’t have an issue with sex work. It’s just really, really, really loud.
‘A lot of spanking, a lot of loud moaning.
The mum asked what to do about her sex worker neighbour being loud
‘We’re sharing a joint wall with our bedroom where the baby sleeps in with us.
‘And the garage – where we figured out some of the action takes place – is less than 10 metres from our bedroom window.
‘This is a problem because on the rare occasions we get to sleep we are now kept awake by the noise.
‘It’s her job though. So what can we do? Vice versa I’m sure a crying baby probably isn’t the best for her business.’
Brittany and Laura advised that the pair should ignore the fact that she’s a sex worker and treat it like any neighbour making noise.
‘The crying babies killing her vibe as well. And I’m sure that the sexy noise is killing your vibe when you’re trying to sleep and with the baby,’ Brittany said.
‘I think you have to forget the sex work part.
‘It’s the fact that there’s someone working from home that’s obnoxiously loud, if your next door neighbour who’s in a band and they’re practising on the drums all day or, you know, or DJ deck that’s trying to do the same thing.
‘I think the only thing you can do here, apart from moving, which you probably don’t want to do, is take away the fact that she’s a sex worker.
‘You can write a note or go and speak to them and maybe you can both work around it.’
The former Bachelor star added that she could ask her if there are ‘different hours’ she could work or try and add ‘soft furnishings’ to make the acoustics in the house better.
‘I think you hit the nail on the head though,’ Laura added.
‘She can hear your screaming baby. And that is probably just as frustrating’.
The pair then agreed they would rather hear sex noises than a crying baby.
In Australia, sex workers can work from home as long as there is only one sex worker working in the house.
