On first glance, Dan and Lacy appear to be just like any other modern couple. But behind closed doors, their kinky bedroom habit sets them apart from others.
The pair actually met on a swingers dating site and, despite being in a happy and loving relationship, they enjoy having sex with other people.
The two have now lifted the lid on the salacious details of their lifestyle with the Daily Mail, from the very unexpected high-end individuals who they’ve seen at swinging parties to the strict rules they have to follow to avoid jealousy.
Lacy, from Nashville, Tennessee, explained that they love being so open about it because they want to shatter the negative stigma that’s often associated with swinging.
‘I think [a lot of people believe] the word swinger just means people that don’t like their spouse or want to cheat, and they just want to f**k other people,’ she said.
‘I think that the general consensus is that swingers can’t keep it in their pants.’
The couple, who tied the knot in 2020, said swinging was always a non-negotiable for them and was something they were on the same page about from the start.
They met on a dating site designed to bring people who like swinging together.
On first glance, Dan and Lacy seem like they’re just like any other modern couple. But behind closed doors, their very-kinky bedroom habit sets them apart from others
‘I messaged him because I thought he was cute, and we just started chatting, and met up that same night,’ Lacy recounted.
While the pair admitted it was initially supposed to be a ‘fun hookup,’ they quickly formed a strong bond.
‘We ended up [six months later] deciding to be in a relationship together, which led to a marriage, and now here we are,’ Lacy explained.
But Lacy admitted that it took some ‘trial and error’ in the beginning of their relationship when it came to figuring out how to navigate this lifestyle and their newfound love.
Lacy, who was previously married and has a child from that relationship, explained that she struggled at first with the dichotomy of wanting to swing but also falling for Dan.
‘Because we had both been in the lifestyle [already], we knew this was something we wanted,’ she said.
‘I knew that him having sex or relationships with other people did not take away from our relationship, but [it was complicated because] I was falling in love with him.’
‘There definitely were some ups and downs, but eventually we just kind of fell into a good rhythm where we made it work.’
The pair actually met on a swingers dating site and, despite being in a happy and loving relationship, they enjoy having sex with other people
Lacy, from Nashville, Tennessee, explained that they love being so open about it because they want to shatter the negative stigma that’s often associated with swinging
The pair ultimately decided to set some boundaries to ensure their relationship stayed strong.
‘We decided we would only play or engage with others when we were together,’ Lacy explained.
Another rule they established was chatting with potential other partners only in a group chat so both of them could see what was being said.
‘We kind of adapted our rules to work in a place where we’re both comfortable,’ Dan explained.
Lacy added: ‘And the longer we got to know each other and the more we built a foundation, the trust naturally came.’
The couple claimed that they’ve met some very high-up individuals at swingers parties, including ‘senators.’
‘We’ve met lots of preachers, teachers, nurses, lots of military cops, a lot of doctors, honestly, it’s everybody,’ Dan said.
Lacy agreed, declaring you can ‘still be an upstanding citizen and still like naughty sex behind closed doors.’
‘I think people think that swingers are the bottom of the barrel people, and the truth is that more than likely a swinger has taught your child at school, or a swinger has treated you when you went to the hospital,’ she added.
‘These people are upstanding citizens in their community, but they also… like letting their freak flag fly.’
The couple, who tied the knot in 2020, said swinging was always a non-negotiable for them and was something they were on the same page about from the start
The couple have over 103,000 followers on Instagram and often speak about their lifestyle on their podcast The Swing Nation. And they said they are hoping to destigmatize the topic.
‘I definitely think swingers or being non-monogamous is a lot different than a lot of people think,’ Lacy said.
‘There is a huge stigma around it, when in fact it’s couples that love each other and do this together for fun.’
‘I think a lot of people feel like [at] swinger parties everybody f***s everybody, but that is not the case,’ she declared.
‘You ask permission before you even touch someone’s leg. There are a lot of boundaries and things that we put in place so that [everyone is] protected and cared for.’
As for why they do it, she said it keeps them young while Dan added that it’s not all about sex but rather, forming genuine connections with people.
‘For us, sex is only [a small part],’ he explained. ‘[Most of the time] you’re just hanging out with cool people and having fun and dancing and connecting and being free and running around naked and joking and drinking.’
