Sharing is caring – but one mom disagrees, revealing she tells her kids they do not have to lend their toys to others.
Lottie Weaver, a mom of three girls, shared a now-viral TikTok detailing why she doesn’t make her children lend their belongings if they don’t want to.
‘I said it and I’ll say it again, I don’t make my kids share!’ the 32-year-old, from Arizona, captioned the TikTok video.
In the clip, Weaver clarified why she has such a hard stance on the matter, explaining that she doesn’t believe her daughters should be pressured into sharing their things with strangers.
In a pointed speech aimed at other parents, the mom declared her children ‘don’t have to share their toys or their snacks or literally any of their things with your kids.’
‘If we are out and about at the park or some communal play place, if my kids have a scooter or toy or bubbles, they’re not sharing with your kids,’ she said passionately.
Weaver then listed three reasons why she would never make her daughters share the things they bought with other kids.
‘Number one, you should’ve brought your own s**t,’ she said bluntly.
Lottie Weaver, a mom of three girls, shared a now-viral TikTok detailing why she doesn’t make her children lend their belongings to others if they don’t want to (stock image)
‘Number two: that’s their toy. They don’t have to share with you,’ the mom quipped.
Weaver continued, listing number three as ‘you don’t have to do something just because somebody asks.’
She added that as a woman raising three girls, she thinks it is especially important to establish boundaries early.
‘For girls growing up, just because someone says, “Hey, can I have this?” or “Hey, can I do this?” you don’t have to say yes,’ she continued.
‘They should’ve brought their own toys,’ Weaver declared.
The mom assured viewers that if her kids want to share, then she has no qualms.
‘But as soon as they’re like, “Hey, they’re not giving my stuff back, I’m done sharing,”‘ that’s when my a** is going over there saying, “Cough it up, cough it up. Your mommy should have brought you your own toys. We don’t have to share, okay?”‘
Weaver’s video sparked a heated debate in the comments, with some people arguing that sharing is a pivotal part of growing up.
Weaver said that as a woman raising three girls, she thinks it is especially important to establish boundaries early (stock image)
‘I’m so sad as a teacher, this is literally the foundation of learning. Made me unfollow,’ one woman wrote.
‘”Your mommy should’ve brought your own toys” is extremely weird,’ commented someone else. ‘Some children don’t have toys, the only time they get to play may be when other kids share with them.’
‘Oof. I tell my kids don’t bring toys if you’re not willing to share it,’ chimed in another.
Someone else sarcastically wrote: ‘Right, because nothing builds strong social skills like never having to consider anyone else.’
But others agreed, adding: ‘She’s right though and y’all mad.”
Another added: ‘Adults don’t have to share so why do kids? But… sharing is caring. And it’s always a nice thing to do.’
Weaver isn’t the only parent to share their non-negotiable stance on sharing though.
Mom-of-two Emily Feret, from Chicago, Illinois, previously shared a TikTok explaining why her children do not share their own toys or possessions with friends.
Instead, she asks her children if there are any toys they don’t want to share and hides them when friends come over – leaving out ‘community toys’ which anyone can play with.
The stay-at-home mother follows a gentle parenting approach and says she treats her children ‘like people’ and with ‘respect.’
She said: ‘If they are fighting over a community toy I’ll offer a solution such as a timer so they each have a bit of time with the toy.
The mom continued: ‘If they are still fighting I’ll then take the toy away. I try and make the consequence make sense to the situation.’
‘If my kids are running and I tell them to stop because they may fall and they don’t listen and then fall, that’s a natural consequence,’ she reasoned.
